WHAT TO SAY

Actions to take

  • Start by Believing
  • Be Supportive
  • Ask How You Can Help
  • Avoid "Why" Questions

What to say

"I believe you."
"I'm sorry this happened."
"I am here for you."

"You can tell me as much, or as little as you want."
"It’s not your fault."
"I’m glad you told me. I’m so proud of you."

"What can I do to support you?"
"I can stay with you tonight. Would that help?"
"Do you want me to go with you to the hospital or police station?"

Even with the best of intentions, “why” questions can sound
accusatory and make survivors blame themselves.